Is It Normal to Argue This Much?

Cheryl Harris, Ph.D.

Published on: 10/09/2025

Many couples question whether their frequency of arguments indicates dysfunction or likelihood of separation. However, research suggests that conflict is inevitable in intimate partnerships. The key factor is not frequency, but how conflicts are managed.

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How Do I Know if We Are Communicating Effectively?

Cheryl Harris, Ph.D.

Published on: 01/09/2025

Couples often mistake frequent talking for effective communication, but true effectiveness is measured by outcomes rather than frequency.

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Why Does My Partner Never Listen When I Am Upset?

Cheryl Harris, Ph.D.

Published on: 31/08/2025

Feeling unheard during times of distress can heighten conflict and create relational dissatisfaction. Listening is not merely about hearing words but about emotional validation.

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What Is the Best Way to Stop Constant Arguments?

Cheryl Harris, Ph.D.

Published on: 30/08/2025

Arguments do not necessarily harm relationships. What matters most is how couples argue and whether they are able to repair afterward.

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